In Islam, marriage is a contract for pleasure, so there can be no rape

December 9, 2010

See, the husband isn’t raping her if he forces her into sex against her will, he’s just enforcing the terms of the contract. You know, like making some vendor deliver the goods you paid for. Yeah, that’s it! The good Islamic husband is just making her deliver the goods.

But don’t take my word for it; just ask the honored Egyptian Islamic cleric, Yousuf al-Badri:

From the MEMRI transcript:

Interviewer: What if it is against her will, using violence?

Yousuf Al-Badri: According to the hadith, if a husband summons his wife and she refuses – she incurs the wrath of God in Heaven when she’s asleep. The husband is not allowed to rape her, but she incurs the wrath of Allah. The Prophet Muhammad said that she must come to him even if she is baking by the stove or riding a horse.

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Interviewer: A marriage of contract is not a deed of ownership, in which the woman relinquishes her honor, her mind, and so on.

Yousuf Al-Badri: This talk about honor is a new thing. We never heard of it until these days. If a woman is at home with her husband, and she is his companion and runs the household, and he asks her to give him food, drink, and so on – how can we possibly consider it rape when he derives pleasure from her, even if she doesn’t feel like it, of if she abhors it… How can we possibly consider it a kind of what is called “rape”? This is not true.

Interviewer: She’s his wife! Do you justify beatings or sadistic behavior?

Yousuf Al-Badri: Islam forbids beating unless it is done with a stick – a stick the size of a pencil or a toothpick.

Are we clear, now, ladies? A Muslim wife who breaks the pleasure contract incurs Allah’s anger and can get beaten with a stick. And then, if he enforces the contract, it isn’t rape.

Glad we’re all on the same page, now.

PREVIOUSLY: We’ve heard this “It’s not rape-rape* inside marriage” argument before, from American and British Muslim clerical groups.

PS: The interview was conducted on the BBC’s Arabic channel, and I was glad to see the interviewer challenge this schmuck on his medieval misogyny, unlike the Egyptian interviewer who looked like he was excited to hear the good news that he could honor his wife by beating her.

*On a related note, thank you, Whoopi Goldberg, for demonstrating once and for all just how stupid and morally bankrupt you are.

(Crossposted at Sister Toldjah)


In Islam, marital rape isn’t rape-rape

October 15, 2010

A few weeks ago, I presented a video clip featuring a distinguished Egyptian cleric who told a rapt interviewer that Allah had created the punishment of beating a wife for refusing her husband sex and that this was a way of honoring her.

But this left open the question, what to do if she won’t help her husband get his freak on, even after a good beating?

Simple! He can just force her to have sex, since, according to the Assembly of Muslim Jurists of America, forcing your wife to have sex against her will really isn’t rape:

In the name of Allah, all praise is for Allah, and may peace and blessing be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family. To proceed:

For a wife to abandon the bed of her husband without excuse is haram [forbidden]. It is one of the major sins and the angels curse her until the morning as we have been informed by the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace). She is considered nashiz (rebellious) under these circumstances. As for the issue of forcing a wife to have sex, if she refuses, this would not be called rape, even though it goes against natural instincts and destroys love and mercy, and there is a great sin upon the wife who refuses; and Allah Almighty is more exalted and more knowledgeable.

Notice that? Even though the husband is committing an act that “destroys love and mercy,” it isn’t rape and the sin is hers. Again, Islam makes the woman the one responsible for the sexual behavior of the man.

Be sure to read the whole thing, because Dr. Bostom opens with a discussion of a similar organization in the UK that also argues there is no rape within a marriage. I can understand their logic, since these sharia law experts define rape as “adultery by force,” making the marital state a prerequisite condition and meaning rape can only occur outside of marriage.

But understanding is not the same as approving. It is, in fact, utterly barbaric and disgusting, again turning the woman in a marriage into little more than the man’s property and justifying, or at least excusing, unspeakable atrocities against her.

And they call this civilized?

(Crossposted at Sister Toldjah)


Marital rape against Islamic law

April 17, 2010

Having written time and again about how Islam represses and justifies violence against women, it’s nice to be able to cite a scholar of Islam who says “No, it doesn’t, and knock it off:”

There is no law in Yemeni legislation that defines a minimum age for marriage. However, there are Islamic legislations that prevent men from forcing their wives into intercourse.

Renowned religious scholar Mohammed Hassan said that the Islamic Jurisprudence prohibits forced intercourse between the husband and wife.

“If a woman is forced to bed by her husband, she should know that he is committing a sin and should be punished according the jurisprudence. She should not think that Islam discriminates against women, it is the sole act of this man,” he said.

He emphasized that, in Islam, marriage is a relationship based on kindness and empathy as read in the Roman’s Chapter in the Quran verse 21: “And among His signs is that He created spouses for you from yourselves for you to gain rest from them, and kept love and mercy between yourselves; indeed in this are signs for the people who ponder.”

Sadly, Mr. Hassan’s opinions are in a distinct minority. One can only hope that this someday changes.

(via The Jawa Report)